Chris Brown | Provoked To Anger on Good Morning America?
It has been two years since R&B star Chris Brown and pop diva Rihanna exploded onto the scene with allegations of domestic violence. When questioned about the incident on Good Morning America by co-host Robin Roberts, Brown insisted on directing the interview toward his new album release. Roberts pressed for more information, and Brown diverted again and again.
TMZ reported that after Brown’s performance on GMA, he stormed off stage and went into a rage. He allegedly broke a window, threw a chair, screamed profanities, yelled at a producer, and left the building shirtless.
Some say that Roberts “provoked” Brown and would not let up. Others argue that Roberts was just doing her job. Whether Roberts provoked him or not shouldn’t be question. Maybe she did; maybe she didn’t. The question should be: When is it okay to display uncontrollable behavior and vandalize property belonging to someone else? It appears that a series of anger management classes may be needed.
There is nothing wrong with getting angry, however, how you respond to an offense is what can make or break you. So, what can you do if you are provoked, angry, or hurt?
Here are Five Steps to Manage your Anger:
- Own up to it! When we are angry, we experience a wide variety of symptoms ranging from rapid heartbeat to the hairs standing up on our necks. The first step to controlling our anger is to acknowledge that we are angry. Anger is generally triggered by fear, embarrassment, hurt, rejection, disrespect, loneliness, uncertainty, and more. There are many triggers under the umbrella of Anger. Own it! Once we have calmed down, we should ask the following questions: “How was I wrong!” It’s much easier to resolve a conflict if we enter it first with “I was wrong because I . . .(fill in the blank), ” than to go into an argument saying, “You were wrong because you . . .(fill in the blank).” Using “You” to start a sentence or accusing someone as a starting point typically puts the other person on the defense and things escalate again.
- Step away! Stepping away from conflict is tough, especially when you feel that there is an injustice committed against you. You have probably heard it said before, “Count to ten before you respond.” This is not such a bad idea. Before you engage in verbal or physical battle, ask yourself if the consequences are worth the fight (or is it worth jail time).
- Take Responsibility! It takes two to Tango; and it takes two to fight. If you have a history of verbal combat that leads to physical altercations, you may need to address the deeper-rooted cause that prevents you from taking responsibility for your actions. Generally, there may be unresolved childhood issues or prior trauma that needs to be addressed. Often when anger becomes aggressive, violent or physical it is about controlling the other person. When angry, we should ask ourselves 2 questions: “Is there really something terribly wrong or am I being selfish!”
- Take Action! Anger can be managed. Develop a management care plan. Here are a few ideas: develop a safe place; learn breathing techniques; incorporate a meditation regimen; exercise to burn off the adrenaline, keep a journal; talk to a friend you can trust; and self-evaluate.
- Get Help! Yes, anger can be managed, however, if you are unable to control your anger, get help! We all battle anger at some point in our lives. When anger turns into rage and results in violence, take time to get help.
If you or someone you know is struggling with anger, violence, or abuse, please contact a counselor to help.
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