According to the American Psychological Association, Bullying is defined as a form ofaggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physicalcontact, words or more subtle actions. The bullied individual typically hastrouble defending him or herself and does nothing to “cause” the bullying.
The StressLess with Bullying product will assist parents and students with identifying bully patterns. In addition, you will find the answers and tools needed to develop healthy coping skills and strategies for success.
Sick of “Sorry!”
“Sorry, Sorry, Sorry! Sound familiar. Ask a 2nd grader what does “Sorry” mean and they will say “That I will never do it again!” However, we all know they are just sorry because they were caught and the victim knows it’s going to come their way again.
Sorry means “I feel for you,” for example at a funeral you might say, “I am sorry for your loss,” because you “feel” for their loss. If you bump into someone and they drop their books you would say, “I am sorry . . . may I help you pick up your books!” Unfortunately, “sorry” is used more for “I feel bad I was caught!”
An Apology should sound something like the following:
– “I apologize for calling you a bad name.”
– I was wrong and will try never to do it again.”
– “Will you Forgive me?”
– Victim: “I was hurt or frustrated, but I forgive you” – Important for the Victim to name the feeling.
What is the Benefits of Forgiving? Research says a forgiving victim lives 8 years longer than one who holds on to forgiveness!
How Can I Make It Up to You? Apologies are empty and still leave the victim feeling they can not trust the person as much as they did before the person hurt them. Download ways to quickly “Make it Up” to the person so they will trust you more than before they were hurt.
– If I did something mean I can do something nice for the victim.
– If I said something mean I can say 4 nice character or compliment their personality or talents.
– Rolling with Conflict with Jim West from Total Life Counseling Center
– Bullying Program
– Reduced Bullying by 50% in your Home or School within 2 weeks.
– Learn how to teach Students how to Roll with Teasing or Name Calling: “Your an idiot” Response: “That’s the Best thing I heard all day.”
– Retain Families with this program. Schools have reported an increase in Retention of families of Victims and been able to Rehabilitate some of the Bullies.
– Reduce Tardies and Discipline Problems by 30% in the first week by having students greet all their classmates by the end of each week: “Good morning Sasha! It’s good to see you! I love your blouse.”
– Incorporate positive conflict resolution plan listed above: “I apologize for hitting you, I was wrong and will try not to do it again, will you forgive me? Let me carry your back pack for the day to rebuild trust.”