Are You Stressed? | 3 Tips to Stress Less | Jada Jackson LMHC
In the day and age of increased activity, heavier workloads, demands to be the very best in all aspects of life, constantly being on the move, and interacting at hyper speed thanks to technology, the stress individuals experience is not surprisingly at an all time high—increasing all the while.
So how do we manage all of the pressure of a straining schedule? How do we keep from becoming too overwhelmed and just burnt out? It’s all about the art of learning to live with what you can’t change, developing good problem solving skills for what you can, and knowing a healthy balance between the two.
Most believe that stress comes from external sources: a high maintenance spouse, small children, and long hours at the office— the list could go on for miles. With the mindset that stress is the result of factors outside of an individual, all energy goes into fixing the outer environment.
However, more often than not, those external stressors cannot be controlled completely or made to disappear. And we remain no less stressed. So what are we to do then?
This is where the psychological principle of internal/external locus of control comes into play. Research has made it a known fact that those with an internal locus of control tend to be much happier, especially regarding interpersonal relationships, and have much lower stress levels than those with an external locus of control.
One with an internal locus believes he/she can control his/her life; the choices made influence how well things turn out. People with an external locus believe their lives and decisions are determined by environmental factors, which one does not really influence. In other words, events happen by chance and one cannot manipulate the environment. Possessing the former state of mind is the healthier option because of the following principle, known as learned helplessness: if you feel that no matter what you do the resulting outcome is up in the air, then you will feel anxious and obviously very stressed.
In the end, it is not about fixing the environment, but rather having the perception that we evoke influence over what happens in our lives. It is thought that one’s relationship with the world is completely dependent on one’s inner personality—the mind, the thought processes. Henceforth, the following tips on how to reduce or deplete your stress load should make perfect sense!
- Practice optimism!
- Look at things as they are, not as what you would like them to be—this speaks to things that cannot be changed.
Otherwise, you will become disappointed time and time again, creating even more stress.
- Sometimes when things go wrong, live with it.
Life does go on. Do not squander precious time. Appreciate what a wondrous world it truly is. Don’t dwell on the past or stress over what can’t be improved.
Life is simply too short to spend feeling in over your head all the time. Your daily and long-term stressors can be addressed; the answer lies within you. If you’re struggling with anxiety due to the high amount of stress and would like help, please consider Dallas Anxiety Counseling Services.
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AUTHOR: Jada Jackson, MS, LMHC – Communicator, Coach & Licensed Mental Health Counselor provides Dallas anxiety counseling services. If you are in need of Dallas anxiety therapy services, you can reach Jada at: (469) 757-5215
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