Have you ever seen a Leader without Followers?
New Leadership Social Skills Groups, Camps & Services in Orlando & Winter Park.
“I was first!” “You are doing it wrong!” “I want to go next!” “Can I be first!” These are a few statements from students that most likely exhibit leadership skills. They are often told to go to the end of the line, or given a consequence for telling someone what to do, but maybe they needsomeone to tell them “what to do.” Silly to think of someone that calls themselves a leader, but have yet have no followers. However, there are future leaders around us that need to learn how to find followers to influence, but they just need some direction. We might call them “Bossy” but they are really leaders that need some tweaking. Some might say they are “Caretakers”, but really they want to Help others but not sure what is the right way. We might have “Gossipers” or they are just future Communicators that need to learn the how to communicate more positively.
Consider how a student views leadership. Basically, they see leaders (parents, teachers, principal, police) as anyone that “tells them what to do (bosses them).” So when they start to assert their leadership skills they start telling their friends what to do and tell them how to do things and therefore they are called “Bossy.” Big surprise! So instead of calling these kids “Bossy” maybe we could give them suggestions on how to lead, affirm, compliment, build others up, brag on other’s rather than themselves, take an interest in someone’s life or passions, offer help to someone, share an idea, etc.
According to Dr. Russell Barkley, MD, students with ADHD or ADD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or Attention Deficit Disorder) as well as students with aspergers are often 25-30% behind socially and emotionally. Students like these may not have ADHD and need help with boundaries, assertion, impulse control, coping skills, starting conversations, greeting, etc., to help close the gap.
The premise of our Leadership Groups is to teach students leadership. Once they know how to lead and do some of the above listed items, they will in turn make their peers feel good to be around them and gain their influence. Once they have influence they have “friends” and can call themselves a leader. Students are taught how to roll with teasing with comical statements that do not provoke their peer.
Our groups incorporate:
- A point system to keep them engaged an reward appropriate responses
- Games | We play tag to see how they handle competition, fairness, cheating, losing or if they play too hard or do other things they may do to stand out.
- Parent involvement | Are you tired of asking your kids what they learned after school or an education function and they say “I don’t know” or “nothing!” At our groups parents come in to the last 15 minutes of the session and the students earn more points for telling them what they learned!
- Experiential learning which include games used at ropes courses to improve communication, teamwork, and help students connect with their peers.
- Group Laser Tag monthly to simulate an outing with friends and to also help them see the benefits of working together in a team!
- “Trust” is the glue in relationships and everything we do with our peers either builds trust or breaks trust. Students are encouraged to Re-Build Trust with a peer in our groups by doing something nice (by giving them a point) in an effort to repair the trust. Our groups have been very effective and Channel 13 did a story on one of our students who reported having no friends to having friends as a result of our services.