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Total Life Counselors Specialize in Premarital counseling, Marriage Preparation and Education

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Testimonial of our Marriage Services:

• "I was ready to begin fully the process of healing.  The counselor provided the right resources of education.  Her ability and skill to understand where I was this lead to the discovery of patterns, behavior and where I was stuck.  Making it was me; understanding and guiding was her (Evelyn).  Very thankful for this daily and marriage saving help.  It’s a process and the new journey.  The best counselor ever!" – Client
• "I always get a smile on my face when I get a chance to talk with you." Jamie

Fox 35 Story: Total Life Counseling's Janie Lacy - Video/Interview on 5 Steps to Save your Marriage by Sandi Burchfield, M.S.

Five Tips to Stay Married

Do you want to know how you can rekindle the romance and bring that spark back into your marriage? Below are five proactive ways to stay married:

Reclaim your date night. Remember staying up all night talking on the phone, or sitting outside in your spouse’s car – just to hear his/her voice a little longer? Did you used to play cards or take the Jet Ski’s out on Saturdays? Don’t give up your date night, just because you have children or because all the bills are due. It is a NECESSITY to learn to play together again. At least once a month, set an appointment to have a date together. Do something you enjoyed before getting married, try something new, and go out to dinner without the kids. And call it a date. Get dressed up or dressed down, whatever fits your personality. The good thing about dates: they don’t have to be costly. Just something fun, something energetic, just the two of you.

Boundaries with the Children and Careers. Though the economy is not looking great, don’t go into panic mode chasing the almighty dollar. Your spouse needs your time and attention. Though the children need enriching activities and have important sporting events, they need to see their parents love each other more. Set a limit on how many hours you will work this week. Put the children to bed at an earlier time or enforce quiet time in their rooms after a specific hour. Make sure you have at least 30 minutes of quality time together so you can listen and empathize with your marriage partner’s day. Also, share things with your husband because, he is not a mind reader like the romance novels would lead you to believe. There is a reason why they call those books “Fiction.” Getting to know each other doesn’t stop at “I do”.

Allow Each Other To Have Some Space. It isn’t a bad thing to have individual interests. If he wants to play golf, she can spend the time catching up on some shopping with the girls. Make sure to practice appropriate boundaries by sharing your individual interests with the same sex (men go out with male friends; women go out with female friends). Don’t be surprised if you both start to appreciate having new things to share with each other. The old cliché “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” may ring true after you have shared a day apart from one another.

Spice Up the Intimate Moments. Have fun giving each other kisses or long embraces, and listen to your kids say, “Ewww,gross!” Send the children to grandma’sor allow them to spend the night with a trusted friend, so you can rekindle the romance in your home. Try new positions, take a bath together, get out the soft music and scented candles. Men, if you prepare your wives, I can almost guarantee she’ll return the favor before the night is over.

Fight fair. This can be much more difficult than it sounds. Expect to have disagreements or to get angry at each other when things donot go as planned. But do NOT call each other hurtful names, do NOT say “I don’t love you or I’mgoing to leave”, and do NOT fight in front of the children if possible. Before you embrace an argument, think about whether or not it is worth the energy. Does it really matter if it was you or him that forgot to turn out the lights or should you save your energy for discussing something that is important like not forgetting to pick up Jane from school again? Remember to pick your battles. Life will go on if the electric bill goes up a few dollars, but will be detrimental if you neglect your parental responsibilities.

Take steps today to improve the state of your marriage. If you want to be proactive and have a marital tune up or if you are struggling in your marriage give us a call at Total Life Counseling. It would be our pleasure to come along side you to improve your marriage!! Call us at 407-248-0030

This article on marriage advice was written by Sandi Burchfield, M.S. Counseling Psychology and she is available for Seminars on this and other topics in the Orlando Florida area.

Evelyn Wenzel LCSW, CAP, Janie Lacy, M.S., Anthony Gutierrez, M.S. & in Clermont Sandi Burchfield, M.S. are available at Total Life Counseling in Orlando, Winter Park & Clermont, Florida offering marriage counseling and premartial counseling.

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