Anti-Bullying Guide for Parents, Video Program for Children & Teens to Prevent Bullying
Free Excerpt to StressLess with Bullying to Help Students Fly Under the Bullies’ Radar with Expert Jim West, MA, LMHC
StressLess with Anti-Bullying | Parent and Student Tips to Fly under the Bullies Radar
Total Program Video & Workbook
Why do Students Bully?
- Chaotic, out of control, home environment
- Abuse
- Low Self-Confidence
- Poor, inconsistent boundaries at home
- Depressed
- Angry
- No sense of control in their life
Who shows up on the Bullies Radar?
- Poor Self Concept
- Poor Eye Contact
- Reactive with Teasing
- Weak or Frail Appearance
- Depressed
- Hyperactive
- Different
- Developmental Students
- Poor Social Skills
- Poor Boundaries
- Difficulty Fitting In
- Loners
Steps to Quickly Resolve Conflict and Repair Broken Trust from the Bully to the Victim
The StressLess with Bullying product will assist parents and students with identifying bully patterns. In addition, you will find the answers and tools needed to develop healthy coping skills and strategies for success.
Sorry means “I feel for you,” for example at a funeral you might say, “I am sorry for your loss,” because you “feel” for their loss. If you bump into someone and they drop their books you would say, “I am sorry . . . may I help you pick up your books!” Unfortunately, “sorry” is used more for “I feel bad I was caught!”
– I was wrong and will try never to do it again.”
– “Will you Forgive me?”
– Victim: “I was hurt or frustrated, but I forgive you” – Important for the Victim to name the feeling.
What is the Benefits of Forgiving? Research says a forgiving victim lives 8 years longer than one who holds on to forgiveness!
How Can I Make It Up to You? Apologies are empty and still leave the victim feeling they can not trust the person as much as they did before the person hurt them. Download ways to quickly “Make it Up” to the person so they will trust you more than before they were hurt.
– If I said something mean I can say 4 nice character or compliment their personality or talents.
– Rolling with Conflict with Jim West from Total Life Counseling Center
– Bullying Program
– Reduced Bullying by 50% in your Home or School within 2 weeks.
– Learn how to teach Students how to Roll with Teasing or Name Calling: “Your an idiot” Response: “That’s the Best thing I heard all day.”
– Retain Families with this program. Schools have reported an increase in Retention of families of Victims and been able to Rehabilitate some of the Bullies.
– Reduce Tardies and Discipline Problems by 30% in the first week by having students greet all their classmates by the end of each week: “Good morning Sasha! It’s good to see you! I love your blouse.”
– Incorporate positive conflict resolution plan listed above: “I apologize for hitting you, I was wrong and will try not to do it again, will you forgive me? Let me carry your back pack for the day to rebuild trust.”
Jim West – Anti-Bullying School Assembly
Bullying Program without talking much about Bullying???
Use the 3 Steps to Resolve Conflict to Deal with Bullies!
Use Positive Socialization & Repair Relationships by allowing Bullies to “Make It Up” to the one they hurt in place of detention or suspension.
Reduced Bullying by 50% in your Home or School within 2 weeks.
* Learn how to teach Students how to Roll with Teasing or Name Calling: “Your an idiot” Response: “That’s the Best thing I heard all day.”
* Retain Families with this program. Schools have reported an increase in Retention of families of Victims and been able to Rehabilitate some of the Bullies.
* Reduce Tardies and Discipline Problems by 30% in the first week by having students greet all their classmates by the end of each week: “Good morning Sasha!
* Positive Socialization – Start your day at your school with the students greeting 4-5 different students day in their home room class. “It’s good to see you! I love your blouse.” “Good Morning.” Handshake, Smile, etc.
* Apologize – Incorporate positive conflict resolution plan listed above: “I apologize for hitting you, I was wrong and will try not to do it again, will you forgive me?
* Make It Up – Let me carry your back pack for the day to rebuild trust.”
3 Easy Steps to Repair Peer or Sibling Relationships & Reduce School Bullying by Teaching Positive Socialization.
* Positive socialization is the type of social learning that is based on pleasurable and exciting experiences.
* Peer pressure is not always a bad thing. For example, positive peer pressure can be used to pressure bullies into acting better toward other kids. Positive Peer Pressure is Peer Support.
* This program teaches youth workers how they can utilize peer support in promoting positive youth development.
This program, now used in Elementary/Secondary Schools, & Youth Groups, across Florida is reducing discipline problems by up to 50 percent, eliminating the need for after school detention programs, and is giving students the emotional security to participate more fully in the learning process.
*Instant Results: Faculty at each school that participates in this consult is amazed at the quick turn around in the classroom.
*Assimilation of new students: Students report “everyone in the class is talking to everyone” by simply teaching students how to greet each other and requiring them to greet each class member by the end of each week.
*Inclusion: Fifth grade girls recently noted “the boys are letting us play football with them.”
StressLess with Anti-Bullying | Parent and Student Tips to Fly under the Bullies Radar
Total Program Video & Workbook Combo
Topics for StressLess with Bullying | Parent and Student Tips to Fly under the Bullies Radar
- Signs that your child may be a Victim of Bullying
- What is Indirect Aggression? – Similar to the Mean Girls Movie
- What Parenting Style contributes to making your child a target for bullies?
- Developing a Healthy Self-Esteem Now or in the Early Years!
- Building Social Skills to have a Posse! Learn to make friends so you are not alone!
- Making Peers Feel Like a Million Bucks!
- How to Roll with Teasing? Ignoring doesn’t always work and walking away still gives the bully what they want. So it’s important to respond without insulting them back and without letting them see they are getting to you! Example:
- Bully: “You’re a faggot and I had fun with your mom last night!”
- Victim (said without sarcasm): “That’s the Best thing I’ve heard all day! You always bring out the best in me.”
- What Parenting Style may cause Bullying Behaviors?
- What if I have heard my child/teen is bullying others?
- Sorry doesn’t cut it! | School Program to Resolve Conflict with Bullying and Victims where the Victim carries the Victims Backpack for the Day in place of suspension! Sorry doesn’t cut it so learn about a program that is getting traction in several public and private schools.
- Three Easy Steps to Quickly Resolve Conflict and Repair Broken Trust in Your:
- Home
- Classroom or School
- Youth Group
What others have said about Jim’s fun approach to Anti-Bullying
“I was suicidal last week and this week I had a great week using the your ‘Roll with It’ Tips!” Middle Schooler“You Suck John! You’re parents paid off the coach so you could be on the JV Basketball Team! That’s the only way you could make the team,” as John retells the story of how his teammates bullied him and tried to get him to quit the team! John had been going to school with his head down to avoid eye contact with is aggressors until one day he took Jim West’s advice, author of the StressLess with Bullying for Students and Parents!
John received more of the same messages on his Facebook and used the StressLess advice and responded with “Yeah I do suck at basketball and I wish I could shoot a 3 point shot like you David! Do you think you could help me with my shot at practice tomorrow?”
There was a 5 minutes pause. Can you imagine what David’s reaction was when he first read John’s response? John then replies “Ok . . . See you at practice!”
John recalls the next day he went to school with his head down and David saw him and said “Hey John . . See you at practice!” John was so relieved and held his head hi as his confidence was up and he knew now how to roll with the teasing.
Jim West, MA, LMHC, NCC
is an author, international communicator, coach, nationally certified and licensed counselor and specializes in Oppositional Defiance & Attention Deficit Disorder.
Additionally, Jim West is available to implement this Consultation and others at your school or youth group.
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