Artie Lange recently stabbed himself nine times and people wonder how someone can get to his level of success and still attempt to take his life. According to Artie’s boss, Howard Stern, Artie has been struggling with addictions for a long time. This attempt is causing people to look around them and wonder what they could do or say to someone if they are struggling with depression. Additionally, the economic stress, high unemployment rate puts stress on marriages, relationships and may cause some prone to depression to go deeper.

The Journal of the American Medical Association has reported that 90% of all suicides occur during or following a depressive episode, such as an argument, a lost relationship, or financial problems. Also people who have a dependence on alcohol or drugs in addition to being depressed are at greater risk for suicide. And four times more men than women kill themselves; but three times more women than men attempt suicide.

What we need to understand is that suicide is preventable. Most suicidal people desperately want to live; they are just unable to see alternatives to their problems. Most suicidal people give definite warning signs of their suicidal intentions, but others are often unaware of the significance of these warnings or unsure what to do with them.

10 Warning Signs:

  1. Here are some of the warning signs. A suicidal person may:
  2. Talk about suicide, death, and/or no reason to live.
  3. Withdraw from friends and/or social activities.
  4. Have a recent severe loss such as relationship, or threat of a significant loss.
  5. Have attempted suicide before.
  6. Take unnecessary risks; be reckless, and/or impulsive.
  7. Increase their use of alcohol or drugs.
  8. Express a sense of hopelessness.
  9. Be faced with a situation of humiliation or failure.
  10. Have a history of violence or hostility.
5 Suicide Prevention Tips Once you have seen the signs, here are some tips on how you can help someone who is threatening suicide.

  1. BE DIRECT: Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
  2. BE WILLING TO LISTEN: Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
  3. BE NON-JUDGEMENTAL: Don’t debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or whether feelings are good or bad. Don’t lecture on the value of life.
  4. GET INVOLVED: Be available. Show interest in support.
  5. OFFER HOPE: Other alternatives are available.


Remember that you are not alone. If you have a friend or family member who is having suicidal thoughts, you can seek out help at: 

  1. A community mental health agency.
  2. A professional mental health counselor or psychologist.
  3. A suicide prevention/crisis intervention center.
  4. A family physician.
  5. A religious/spiritual leader.

All of us will have to face difficult moments and disappointments at some point in our lives. Every single problem has a beginning, middle and an end, therefore we need to remember that this too shall pass and we should use every adversity as a learning experience that will allow us to grow. You are not alone; if you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, talk to someone and seek help. For more information on how to prevent suicide visit our website Total Life Counseling.

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